Monthly Archives: May 2012

Reflecting on my first year of college.

I just got back from my first year of college and I still remember the countdown  and the excited/exhaused post I wrote the night before I moved away.  I feel the need now, to reflect on the past year away.  I’m not going to say life’s been perfect, because it’s been a rough journey but, I do think I’ve made a lot of awesome friends that I sincerely hope to only grow closer to next year.  It’s weird being at home and I feel like half of my friends are strangers.  I feel out of place but when I think about it, that’s probably a good thing.  I’ve really been enjoying myself and there are some regrets I have and people I wish I had reached out to but all good things take time.

I’m really excited about my classes next year and I’m hoping all you enrolled freshmen out there are also excited for your chance to shine.  Moving away from your parents definitely has an impact on who you are and I’ve seen a lot of my friends drift away and become strangers at school.  Before I left I wrote in my journal to just remind myself who I am and who I want to be at school.  If you want to change, that’s fine.  But if you want to stay true to yourself you better make that commitment before you leave.

All in all college is great and it is undoubtedly the best years of my life so far.   Perhaps forever (but let’s hope not).


Girls fight. Guys shut out.

Sorry it’s been so long since I’ve posted.  I’ve noticed y’all really enjoy my “What do guys do when they ‘hang out’?” post so I decided to do another one of those dynamical posts.  If y’all have anything else y’all wonder feel free to post a comment and I’ll (probably) do it for you.  Please don’t get offended when I group all girls into one group.  I realize not all girls are like this and I don’t mean this post to offend anyone.

Usually when girls fight they bicker and talk about each other and it’s really obvious that they’re in a fight or at least not very happy with each other.  Guys, particularly close ones, behave differently.  I’m not sure why we act differently, don’t know why we’re socialized the way we are but when we’re upset we don’t fight, talk about each other, or make it obvious in any way.  You may be thinking ‘wow! that’s great..’ but if you know what I’m talking about you know it’s much worse.

One way it can be worse is you never know what they’re thinking.  When girls get over their fight (whenever that happens) it’s obvious.  They stop sticking their noses up at each other and just get along.  Sure, the relationship might not be perfect but it’s do-able and progress is underway. When guys fight, however, it’s hard to tell if one of them is over it or if they’re still upset.  This can be frustrating and confusing, as you can imagine.

Another reason it’s worse is, one way we as humans overcome things is by talking it out with people.  Girls are good at this because they often have a handful of people that they can text, call, message, etc and it would be normal.  Guys work differently and I think people assume that guys either don’t fight/get upset or that they just shouldn’t.  This can be hard because without this outlet, we have to keep it in and overcome it single handily.

Guys do a really good job just going with the flow and acting normal but this can be really confusing, even though we’re told not to really think that personal.  I guess in the end we should be glad that we’re socialized differently, what a boring world this would be if we weren’t?