When You are Asking Yourself ” Do I Like Her? “

It’s very rare that I obsess over a girl, or even like one for that matter.  Girls are a lot of work and I’ve learned that if I don’t have feelings for her, I’m wasting both of our time.  Ever since my last relationship, almost two years ago, there hasn’t really been anyone on my mind except one girl.  Now she goes to school with me so I’ve grown to like her even more.  I don’t think she could ever understand how much I like her, so I’ve decided to compile this post about how I know I like her.  Feelings can be tricky but I think I’ve found someone special.

It doesn’t matter what you talk about.

No matter what we talk about, I don’t care.  She can go on and on about nothing and I can’t help but enjoy the company.  Whether she’s telling another story or just ranting about life, I can’t pull away.  Not only does it not matter what you talk about, but every word out of her mouth is something special.  You don’t want to miss a beat and you’re genuinely interested in what she has to say.

You’re willing to do anything.

I’m a stingy person, so when it comes to dates, I kind of freak out.  $25 for dinner, $25 for a movie, and if you get concessions you’re just asking to go bankrupt.  Sometimes girls don’t understand the price of all these fancy dates but we sure do.  I haven’t been on a date but I’ve realized that I’m willing to pay any price it takes to interest her in a date.  Not that I think dating someone is about how expensive your dates are, but sometimes what you want to do can cost a pretty penny.  I don’t care what it costs, I want to spend time with her and that takes money.  If we could just sit around and talk for hours I’d be down, but activities build memories and any memory with her is worth it.

She’s flawless in your eyes.

Of course no one is flawless, but I’ve realized that when I look at her, she’s so pure.  She’s perfect.  I could think about her all day and not find a single thing wrong with her.  Her mess ups are cute and her imperfections are beautiful.

I haven’t made my move yet as I’ve been really busy but I really need to jump on it.  A girl like this can’t be single long, I don’t understand how she’s single at all.  Perfection is rare and I’m just hoping no one else catches on to hers.

The most rewarding way to spend your summer

Admit it, we all constantly think about summer.  One thing we don’t think about, however, is just how we’re going to spend each summer and all the options we have.  You see, the problem is, planning your summer can be a lot of work and deciding how you’re going to do that months before the end of the year can be stressful.  Summer camps can be the most rewarding job both monetarily as well as spiritually but require you to apply usually before spring!  Whether it is a Christian camp or not, you’re bound to grow in your strength and learn to lean on Him.  Working as a camp counselor is a lot of work but I’m going to unpack a few things you should consider.

Working with kids is exhausting, no doubt, but don’t let that scare you away.  Managing kids for twenty four hours a day can become overwhelming but watching their childlike behaviors and pure hearts can show just the direction we need to be walking.  Kids have a way of taking things as they are.  You say it, they’ll believe you; but don’t get me wrong, it’s your job to lead them in the right direction!  Very rarely do we get to act out as a leader of Christ and having the opportunity to test those waters first with kids is such a blessing.

Striving to be more of a leader is always important as Christians.  As followers of Christ we are called to run to Him and spread that love to others.  Being a leader among our friends can be intimidating, so having the chance to strengthen your leadership skills can help further your faith and bring you closer to God and in turn, your friends with God.  If you go throughout your days wishing you could be in a position of leadership, showing others His love, then being a camp counselor might be fit for you.

When you aren’t strictly leading your campers and teaching them about God, you’d better be growing those relationships with them.  Since the kids look up to you, it’s important that you let them know that you care.  With care, comes trust, and with trust, the barriers begin to drop and you can finally speak truth to them.  Sometimes they can go on and on about some of the craziest things and it truly will give you some of the most interesting conversations of your life.  Kids have a way with talking and if you listen to them, they’ll tell you anything.

So, you want to strengthen your leadership skills and build relationships but how exactly is this rewarding?  Having counseled over 100 campers this summer, spending a week with around ten at a time, I’ve begun to understand God’s love for us.  If you attended a camp as a kid you might not have realized (assuming you had a good counselor) just how much your counselors cared for you.  Sure, we get grumpy sometimes, and you don’t always get what you want, but counselors are people who truly want the camper to have a unique experience.  Striving day in and day out to strengthen both their own relationship with Him as well as the campers’ is the only way to bring that to reality.  Saying goodbye at the end of each week can be nerve-wracking but fear not – know that each of these kids walk away with a piece of you.  Perhaps they’ll contact you later for support, or maybe they won’t, but know that these kids each learned something from you and these memories of you will stick around for a long time – so make them good!  Most importantly, don’t be afraid to step our of your comfort zone.  If any of this sounds appealing to you, consider applying at a local camp, help make a change in a kid’s life!

Reflecting on my first year of college.

I just got back from my first year of college and I still remember the countdown  and the excited/exhaused post I wrote the night before I moved away.  I feel the need now, to reflect on the past year away.  I’m not going to say life’s been perfect, because it’s been a rough journey but, I do think I’ve made a lot of awesome friends that I sincerely hope to only grow closer to next year.  It’s weird being at home and I feel like half of my friends are strangers.  I feel out of place but when I think about it, that’s probably a good thing.  I’ve really been enjoying myself and there are some regrets I have and people I wish I had reached out to but all good things take time.

I’m really excited about my classes next year and I’m hoping all you enrolled freshmen out there are also excited for your chance to shine.  Moving away from your parents definitely has an impact on who you are and I’ve seen a lot of my friends drift away and become strangers at school.  Before I left I wrote in my journal to just remind myself who I am and who I want to be at school.  If you want to change, that’s fine.  But if you want to stay true to yourself you better make that commitment before you leave.

All in all college is great and it is undoubtedly the best years of my life so far.   Perhaps forever (but let’s hope not).

Girls fight. Guys shut out.

Sorry it’s been so long since I’ve posted.  I’ve noticed y’all really enjoy my “What do guys do when they ‘hang out’?” post so I decided to do another one of those dynamical posts.  If y’all have anything else y’all wonder feel free to post a comment and I’ll (probably) do it for you.  Please don’t get offended when I group all girls into one group.  I realize not all girls are like this and I don’t mean this post to offend anyone.

Usually when girls fight they bicker and talk about each other and it’s really obvious that they’re in a fight or at least not very happy with each other.  Guys, particularly close ones, behave differently.  I’m not sure why we act differently, don’t know why we’re socialized the way we are but when we’re upset we don’t fight, talk about each other, or make it obvious in any way.  You may be thinking ‘wow! that’s great..’ but if you know what I’m talking about you know it’s much worse.

One way it can be worse is you never know what they’re thinking.  When girls get over their fight (whenever that happens) it’s obvious.  They stop sticking their noses up at each other and just get along.  Sure, the relationship might not be perfect but it’s do-able and progress is underway. When guys fight, however, it’s hard to tell if one of them is over it or if they’re still upset.  This can be frustrating and confusing, as you can imagine.

Another reason it’s worse is, one way we as humans overcome things is by talking it out with people.  Girls are good at this because they often have a handful of people that they can text, call, message, etc and it would be normal.  Guys work differently and I think people assume that guys either don’t fight/get upset or that they just shouldn’t.  This can be hard because without this outlet, we have to keep it in and overcome it single handily.

Guys do a really good job just going with the flow and acting normal but this can be really confusing, even though we’re told not to really think that personal.  I guess in the end we should be glad that we’re socialized differently, what a boring world this would be if we weren’t?

If God Never Gives up on Us, Should We Give up on Others?

I’ve been contemplating this concept for a while now and although I’ve fought my conclusion countless times, I still believe I’ve reached one worthy of sharing.  As Christians, we fail constantly and we quickly become filled with guilt and want nothing more but forgiveness.  We know God forgives us freely, even in the sinful act, so how can we not grant that same mercy to others?  Forgiving others can be difficult, particularly when it isn’t the first time, but it can be even harder to let them back into our lives as God does for us.

Ephesians 4:32 says “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

I’ve been trying to forgive a certain friend for a while now and I’ve gone back and forth on my decision.  Every time I ask God for his forgiveness, I remember that he too is counting on me to forgive as he does us.  When God forgives us, he forgets the wrongs and we are purely clean.  No lie, sexual act, cheat, or abandonment is ever held up against us in the eyes of God.

After I thought more about this I realized that it’s essential that I, too, forgive others in this manner.  God has a plan and I’d be wrong to stop that from happening – sin is forgiven to be forgotten.  We all mess up at times and think about how much better of a place the world would be should we all forgive and forget.  We spend enough time basking in our own guilt, we don’t need that to be held against us by our friends or others around us.  Learning to truly forgive others as God forgives us not only sets others free but ourselves as well.

It Doesn’t Have to be Awkward

Whether you’re the girl, the guy, interested in a relationship, or just plain ignorant, hanging out with someone of the opposite gender can be complicated.  Even with line is clearly drawn in the relationship, it’s hard to ever be one hundred percent sure as to what your partner, or, friend, is feeling.  During the teen years, for the most part, guys and girls are told they shouldn’t be friends.  Guys and girls some how have this big idea that if you’re going to have any type of relationship, you have to be dating.  Not being any further from the truth, this misconception can lead to some confusing times when just trying to hang out with a friend or, if you’re in the other position, trying to get into a more serious or intimate relationship.

No matter which side of the field you’re playing, it’s important to make clear what your intentions are.  If you’re the one looking for a relationship, make that obvious because the fact of the matter is, if they’re interested as well, this will only speed up and make the process simpler for the both of you.  Should you be the one that just wants to be friends and hang out, make sure you do your best to get that point across.  Maybe inviting another friend over to join y’all would be a good idea.

If you look at the situation logically, each person has their own ideas cooking up in their head as to how they want the day to go or what they ultimately want out of the relationship.  No one is in the wrong and if you’re friends, there won’t be any hard feelings – what’s the worst that can happen?  Hang out, relax, watch a movie or just hit the park.  Be yourself and don’t stress so much about what the other one is thinking.  Everything will work out just fine.

Probability of Good Looks or Attractivity

You know what I got to thinking about the other day?  Okay, so I’m sure we’d all agree there are naturally good looking people, those who go through surgery and or a lot of make up for beauty, and those that work out for the perfect body.  No matter what you do, unless born with it, there is no way to get a naturally good looking face so, I’m here to ask.. what are the odds of this?  When born, why does one come out either attractive, or just messed up.  Why is the skin tone how it is, the eyes where they are, and the nose that particular shape and size?  Sure, genes have to do with it but let’s face it – no matter how much you look like your parents, there must be some sort of randomly generated attributes about yourself.  No two people are exactly the same so – what are the odds?  One brother could be societies gem while the other sits behind closed doors afraid to come out.  If a scale was generated for looks, what would the probabilities be?  If you had to say, what do you think the probability of good , average, or  bad looks be?  On top of that, think about this: do you think it’s more, less, or just as rare to be ugly as opposed to beautiful.